Friday, December 29, 2006

Of people

An unexpected friendship is blooming at work.

This young lady joined our company a couple of months ago.

Way better looking than yours truly and from a better company, this girl had all the guys at hello. There were fist fights among the guys to even get her some coffee.

Now this irked me no end. These were all my friends until a minute ago (still are, really !), and now, they had no time to listen to me. To put it mildly, I resented this new creature.

The jealousy in me took no time to label her every attribute as evil. Her outfit, her accent, her spectacles and everything else. I ignored the very woman sitting next to me for the past three months. I must have been oh-so shameless.

Then came a company social last week, and we finally did talk to each other. And now I feel like SUCH a jerk for my behaviour. Far from being a bitch, she was actually quite intelligent and funny. We connected - big time.

Today she told me she quit. She'll be gone in a few days.

It was one of her reasons that stung me at the pit of my stomach. She said she had no one to talk to. Apparently the tasks assigned to her were not what she expected, and she was quite frustrated about it. Moreover, her 10-day old wedding gave her a lot of changes to cope with at home. All she needed was an adult-to-adult conversation with someone who cared.

I was late. I could've helped her stay. I could've supported her, and been there for her. But my jealousy and my ego blinded me.

So here are the lessons this new friend taught me - that appearances are deceptive, that I'm too quick to judge people, and that it never hurts to say hello the first time.

Some lessons I guess, are just learnt the hard way.

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